Please understand my passion when I say, PLEASE DO WHAT YOU LOVE. I have spent most of my younger years doing just what I needed to get by because I had kids to care for and needed to make sure we had a roof over our head, food in our bellies, and clothes on our back. For some, this struggle is daily and their passion for what they love has faded or eluded them because they think they can’t achieve it with all the obstacles set in front of them. After recently reading an article about being a mediocre mom because you are trying to balance a career and a life, I understand. You can’t always balance the two but what you can do is manage. No matter how many books are out there about how to be a parent and how to manage each stage of their life, you can never really be prepared to be a parent. One thing we can understand is being their age at every stage. If they get caught doing something stupid, you still have to punish them because well, how will they learn? It’s often like that scene from The Incredibles, where flash was caught putting a tack on his teachers chair and at the dinner table the mom is telling the dad about what he did and he becomes very interested and almost excited. We know our kids will do silly things throughout their childhood days but we have to refrain because we want them to be better. We want them to live their dream because we couldn’t. We need to set the example, be the example because whatever you are, your kids will be. If you’re a mom, and like me raised a few to adulthood and started over, you realize what you should’ve did different in the beginning to make sure you and they were happy. One thing to remember about family life is, that if the parents are happy so are the kids. I’m not saying that I am unhappy but I am dissatisfied with my choices. We are never too old or never too young to make changes. Many people do it every day to make their dreams come true. Quit the excuses and put your big girl panties on or big boy briefs on and make it happen. Excuses are the thing of the past. If you keep making excuses that’s what your life will end up being. There is always time for change. Don’t get me wrong the struggle will be more real than ever, but the big question at job interviews are is, “Where do you see yourself in five years?” Are you going to tell the manager at a fast food restaurant, “I see myself here, working the same nine to five, day in and day out because really I can’t see myself doing anything else” NOT! What you really want to say is, “Because I have to if I want to keep my apartment or house, car, pay my bills, and keep my family fed.” Shucks, did they see themselves still working there asking you that question? Don’t get me wrong, if that’s what you want to do all of your life, then that must make you happy. If that is what you are doing now and after reading that last sentence you say no it doesn’t make me happy I do it because I have to, then you need to rethink some things. Now, notice I have said throughout these words I presented for you, that you will have struggles because I know it won’t be easy. Nothing is ever easy if you really want it.
I have told my kids all their lives to do something that they love and I still believe that. We all have obstacles and how we chose to maneuver around them is what defines us. Most of us are worried about what others will think, and really you should stop thinking that way. Be selfish about your happiness. I’m not saying be a jerk to do what you love, I am saying do what makes you happy and still be a good person. It’s a known fact that no matter what, when you grow up, you must work and pay bills. That is, of course, if you want to hang out with your friends, travel, and have a great time. If you are that young person, who like myself, that is having a baby and think I can never get this done now, you’re lying to yourself because the obstacles you have to maneuver now are harder. Going on welfare won’t help you because if you go to school full time they will shut you down. God forbid you do something that could get you on your feet and off of welfare. So, if you still decide to stay on welfare, you must do it all. Online is the way now. If I had this option back in the day I would be a Marine Biologist already and passed all of these math classes that I am dreading to take.
Again, please do what you love and know that your struggle will hopefully last less than those five years that the fast food manager asked about.